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-This picture is drawing a lot, and I mean //a lot// of criticism.\\
+I'm kind of uncomfortable with putting this picture so prominently on this page. It draws a lot, and I mean //a lot// of criticism. To a large degree it does it rightly so. Just "Biblicalgenderroles". The title "Shit tests women give their men" just flatout declares all women to be manipulative (probably because biblical gender roles generally see women with suspicion, it makes sense this account would post this shit), this picture is AI generated slop, and the picture presents the man as strong and powerful and in control, with how he looks and how his wife holds onto his arm with her terrified and insecure facial expression. The whole picture is just one big fail, and that's how [[https://www.reddit.com/r/aislop/comments/1t5ukot/how_to_make_your_lady_break_up_with_you_in_only/|the post on Reddit where I found the picture treats it]].
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-And don't get me wrong, a lot of the criticism is justified. It is posted by an account "Biblicalgenderroles". The title "Shit tests women give their men" just flatout declares all women to be manipulative (probably because biblical gender roles generally see women with suspicion, it makes sense this account would post this shit), this picture is AI generated slop, and the picture presents the man as strong and powerful and in control, with how he looks and how his wife holds onto his arm with her terrified and insecure facial expression. The whole picture is just one big fail, and that's how [[https://www.reddit.com/r/aislop/comments/1t5ukot/how_to_make_your_lady_break_up_with_you_in_only/|the post on Reddit where I found the picture treats it]].
 //...however//. For this analysis, let me break down this picture into its essential parts. If we strip it of all the unnecessary and inflammatory elements and keep only exclusively what's necessary, what would this look like? Well, I think I have an idea:
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 Now this might sound harsh and distasteful, but really this is the part that I think makes human love so valuable. Humans are //not// perfect. You will not find the perfectly beautiful and perfectly intelligent human out there. In fact, I'd argue that being together with the perfect human being might actually be boring and "imperfect" in its own right((And I use "might" very deliberately here because maybe perfect is literally just absolute and actually perfect. I might just be wrong here.)). Humans love each other despite - nay - //because// of their imperfections (of course there are limits to this as well, but you get the point). While beauty and intelligence could be considered resources that we bring to the table, it's what we make out of these resources that matter in a real and dedicated relationship. That's why we can openly and honestly admit that we don't think our partner has achieved visual perfection, because - well - our commitment to them is not based on that. In fact, what really is beauty good for anyway? What is anyone going to make out of that resource? Hah, we've basically arrived at the modern sentiment that, actually, beauty does not and should not matter((Well, let's just agree that beauty is a resource you bring to the table and does lead to a more satisfying relationship, but crucially it is only one of many resources needed for a good relationship.)).
+There are a lot of concepts that play into this that I have not mentioned. For example, this whole question is a trust thing. And it's why I personally choose to give the straight answer. If I am always truthful, people around me know what they're dealing with. There aren't any games being played, no dancing around uncomfortable questions, no moments of uncertainty where a person can't be sure whether what I said is really what I think. Does he //really// love me? Does he think I'm ugly? There is no ambiguity with me. Of course this involves accepting a reality that is inherently imperfect and, at times, quite ugly, but once the trust is there it makes things a lot easier. If you've ever been worried about something in a relationship... that doesn't happen.
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